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Transitions

24th October, 2018 / 8 Comments / in Blog / by Bebe Hansen

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly Richard Bach Transitions…we all know them and have experienced them. I am in one. It feels really useful and liberating to remember that many things have just recently radically changed for me as a result of losing my longtime friend, collaborator, teaching and business partner, Doug Silsbee....

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Notes from the Celebration of Life for Doug Silsbee

14th August, 2018 / 9 Comments / in Blog / by Bebe Hansen

Doug Silsbee’s Celebration of Life happened on Sunday, August 12 at 4:00 PM ET. There were over 120 people in attendance, sitting or standing outside the Pavilion at Bend of Ivy Lodge. People gathered who knew or love Doug or whose lives and growth were touched by Doug’s writing or teaching about the Presence-Based Coaching or Leadership work. This included former clients,...

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A Video Interview with Bebe Hansen...

26th July, 2018 / 0 Comments / in Blog / by Bebe Hansen

About her journey, coaching skills, and the PBC transition In this lovely interview with Rod Francis in June 2018, Bebe Hansen, recently named Principal of Presence-Based Coaching, shares her personal and professional journey into coaching, talks about some key coaching skills and practices that support learning and change, and a bit about the Presence-Based Coaching...

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Life on the Sidelines

31st May, 2018 / 38 Comments / in Blog / by Bebe Hansen

Old habits die hard. They hang on for good reason. They’ve learned their strategies well.  At one time, they served. And, at some point, they outlive their usefulness and their effectiveness. I find myself in a new situation, a new context that is creating some new demands on my habits.  As many of you know, Doug Silsbee, Founder of Presence-Based Coaching, received a stage...

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The Hand of the Unseen

20th July, 2017 / 2 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

Our narrow view actually precludes seeing the workings of the system itself. When we are living and leading in complexity, we often experience the effects of complexity. We experience the unseen hand of governing dynamics. But, our narrow view focuses our attention on the effects themselves and how they threaten or create opportunities for us. Our narrow view actually precludes...

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Presence in Complexity Series #9: Investing in Embodied Capacity

16th May, 2017 / 1 Comment / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

Complexity requires embodying new ways to lead. The problem is, our lightning-fast cognition says “good enough” way before our nervous system has embodied a new capability. Physiological change and cognitive processing proceed at very different timescales. A sound strategy for development requires components for both. We must feed our agile and impatient cognition. And,...

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Presence in Complexity Series #8: Scaling Awareness

27th April, 2017 / 0 Comments / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

Complexity is unpredictable. Our world responds to good intentions and common sense actions with perverse and unintended consequences. Our noblest efforts fail to accomplish what we believe we should be able to accomplish. This is of course a huge challenge to our sense of self! And, it’s not personal! Complexity is actually normal Complexity is actually normal. Even when...

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Presence in Complexity Series #7: Resilience: De-Coupling State from Context

5th April, 2017 / 1 Comment / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

Directing attention instantly and directly modifies our inner condition. We live in extraordinary times. It is a new form of agency to begin to discover that we can affect our mood, our sense of ourselves, our outlook on life, and our thoughts simply by directing our attention where we choose. What do you mean? No drugs, no therapy, no decades of self-improvement reading?...

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So Where In the World is Doug?

3rd March, 2017 / 12 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

Our home is 125 square feet in the shape of a rounded aluminum tube containing everything we need… Some of you have gotten my email autoresponder to the effect of “I am on extended travel through most of April. I will be checking email occasionally, but am also practicing being less responsive than you might reasonably expect.” I get that leaves a lot open to...

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Presence in Complexity Series #6: Leadership Presence in Complexity

8th February, 2017 / 6 Comments / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

Leadership presence is the means by which our internal feeling states are shared into our relationships. Leadership presence is the means by which our internal feeling states are shared into our relationships. Consider this thought experiment. You are walking down the sidewalk alone, at night. Someone is coming the other way on the same sidewalk, a hundred yards away. There’s...

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Vignettes from the Road

26th January, 2017 / 1 Comment / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

Friday. Trump inauguration. I decide, at the last minute, that it’s very important to watch this moment in history. I sympathize with some of the concerns that brought Trump to power, but I deeply believe that Trump himself is completely incapable of addressing them. His angry, nationalistic inaugural address, speaking of a dystopian America that only he can fix, affirms my...

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Presence in Complexity Series #5: Embodying Congruent States

9th January, 2017 / 3 Comments / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

To the extent that the system around us being chaotic or fragmented means that we are chaotic and fragmented internally, we have lost the boundaries that distinguish us from the system. Wow, what a world we live in! It’s a New Year. And, we face a level of risk and uncertainty that I’ve not experienced since the Cuban Missile Crisis. My father is in the hospital, facing...

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Winter Solstice

21st December, 2016 / 0 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

Winter Solstice, 2001 It is the longest night. It is the shortest, darkest day. Time has to pause while the sun stills, while the earth waits to draw her next breath, frozen moment when we imagine nothing can help, that we’ll be caught in this darkness forever: and so we light candles, our fragile signals of need — we carol together, we listen, we hear fleeting through...

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Hope in Bad Times

15th December, 2016 / 0 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

To be hopeful in bad times is not foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness. What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there...

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Presence in Complexity Series #4: Resourcing with Presence in Challenging Times

13th December, 2016 / 2 Comments / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

We live in very unpredictable times. And, this has profound effects on our moment-by-moment experience. Complexity, for leaders who are accustomed to making things happen, is an uncomfortable space. Lack of predictability can trigger us in ways that reduce our resourcefulness when we need it most. As a ready example, note your own reaction to the recent US election. What has...

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Presence in Complexity Series #3: What Does the Body Have to Do With It?

30th November, 2016 / 5 Comments / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

Everything, really! Our body structures our interpretations of the world around us, generates our reactions to things around us, and determines the actions we take. Attention in the body is the key to staying resourceful when the world isn’t cooperating. It is how we can bring bringing awareness and choice into our reactions to the world. These urges drive our relationships,...

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Presence in Complexity Series #2: Identity on the Line

16th November, 2016 / 4 Comments / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

Our responses in complexity are often determined, in ways that are both debilitating and invisible to us, by our perspective We experience situations as difficult when they call into question our sense of who we are. Among most of the people I know, domestically and overseas, there is a sense of outrage about last week’s election. Among others, there is presumably a sense of...

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Post-Election: 11/9 and the Throughlines of Resilience

10th November, 2016 / 21 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

Yesterday was a very difficult day. I went to bed on Tuesday night with the election trend clear, but not knowing the outcome. I awoke at 6 a.m. yesterday to find out that the candidate that I felt scared by had won decisively. I understand that for many, this was great news, and I appreciate that there can be reason and caring behind this view. I was in shock. I woke my wife,...

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Presence in Complexity Series #1: Reading Our Context

4th November, 2016 / 14 Comments / in Blog, Series / by Doug Silsbee

Because we don’t know how to navigate this terrain, we tend to double down on what we’ve always done in an effort to re-establish our inner sense of a competent self. It’s most people’s experience that the world we live in is changing rapidly. We experience it as “VUCA,” a term coined by the acronym-favoring military at the end of the 80’s to describe the...

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Voting as a Simple Act in Complexity

26th October, 2016 / 26 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

I voted early the other day. I didn’t feel any significant sense of relief, though it did feel good to vote for Hillary. But the election is still two weeks away. I actually don’t expect to feel a huge sense of relief even if the election turns out the way I think it will, which is that Hillary will win, and win big. Assuming she wins, I would really love to believe that the...

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Complexity in the Mountains

25th August, 2016 / 0 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

August offered me an 8 day wilderness trip in the Beartooth Mountains of Montana, accompanied by my two brothers. I came here for the first time in 1973, for a geology field school. I’ve been returning for the past 43 years, exploring new territory each time. This time, we poked around a new part of the high plateau, in particular seeking to visit some of the remnants of the...

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Mindfulness Tips for Behavior Change

27th August, 2015 / 0 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

Mindfulness has been receiving wide attention lately in countless books, published research papers, and mainstream business literature. The physical and psychological benefits of mindfulness are indisputable, and the implications for coaching, behavioral change, and leadership development are profound. Coaches and clients alike can leverage their change work through these simple...

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Living at the Frothy Edge

1st April, 2015 / 0 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

We are all in transition. Something is always ending; something else sprouting. For sure, some transitions are more painful, liberating, intentional, or dramatic than others. But, we can all point to things in our lives that are diminishing and to others that are taking root. Projects, relationships, health, life circumstances, the focus of our intentions and energies…. these...

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Whole-heartedness

11th March, 2015 / 0 Comments / in Blog / by Doug Silsbee

I have been feeling the turning for some time now. It began a couple years ago, when a combination of circumstances made it clear that we could no longer sustain what we had so enthusiastically built, and it was time to create some change. Moving to town, selling our beloved retreat center, Walker retiring, building the team that delivers and manages the Presence-Based Coaching...

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